WHAT I THINK ABOUT THE STUPID STUFF GOING ON IN THE WORLD
I recently came across a story about a missing woman named Maria Fernandez that really made me think about how we cover missing person stories in the United States. If you are a US citizen and you aren’t a teen, I’m sure you remember Susan Smith. Susan Smith was a South Carolina mother who told police that a black man jumped in her car and stole her car with her kids in it. She later admitted that she drowned the kids herself. I personally believe that she deserved to die by lethal injection for that crime, but instead she went to prison. Anyway, there was a nationwide call for help to look for the boys.
When Natalie Holloway disappeared in Aruba, everyone in the US (and probably Holland too), knew about it. When the Dutch boy was initially bought in for questioning, everyone thought the case was solved, however, it wasn’t. The story stayed in the news for years. When Caylee went missing in Florida that story stayed in the news for a very long time and still is in the news. People were interested and it showed. So is there a double standard when a non-white person goes missing?
The story I came across is about a woman named Maria Fernandez. It is believed that her boyfriend might have something to do with her disappearance, but no one knows. What struck me as odd about this case is that Maria went missing in September 2008. That’s months ago! Why haven’t we heard anything about this case? The woman was a responsible mother of one young son and she was a nurse, yet her story has not been blasted all around the news. No Adam Walsh. No prime time information. Nothing! In the article, the reporter said something that made me cringe. Here is the quote.
While thousands of people go missing each year, cases involving white children or attractive white women typically are the ones that attract media attention. Experts say it takes a passionate advocate to bring attention to a case involving a black person, such as Fernandez.
I started thinking about all of the missing person stories I’ve seen this year and I realized that perhaps this statement was correct. I’m sure that there have been some missing black people and some missing latino people, however, I can’t recall information about one non-white person! Have we become so wrapped up in race as a society that we don’t give a damn when a person goes missing if they aren’t white? I guess we have. Thinking about that makes you question yourself because we all like to think that we are morally better than the next person. The question is, are we really? When we start devaluing a human life because the person is a person of color we ultimately end up desensitizing ourselves and becoming the very people that we condemn as racist - whether we like it or not. Maybe all of us are very stupid. Anyway, you can read the particulars of the Maria Fernandez case below. If you have any information, please do the right thing.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081223/ap_on_re_us/missing_nurse
mammabear
January 17th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Thank you for taking time to visit and leave a comment on my blog, concerning Maria Fernandez.
Unfortunately, race does seem to be one of many factors, as to whether or not a missing person gains the media and public’s undivided attention. I am not sure why. I write about missing persons no matter the age, race, sex or social status, because to me EVERY missing child and EVERY missing person deserves to be found. EVERY searching family deserves the help from the public and media.
In my opinion, race is not the only factor, though. If you visit National Center for Missing Children, and run a few searches, you would find that a missing child is far more likely to be either a runaway or abducted by a parent, rather than a stranger abduction…yet ’stranger-danger’ hype is still pushed to the max.
Another group of the missing who gain little media attention are adults, especially if it is an adult male. The resources for a family searching for a missing adult just aren’t there, like they are for a child. Often times it is up to the family to keep that missing loved one out there in the public eye, or else the case will dim. It’s not right, nor is it fair…but it is important for family of a missing adult to know.
The below link is the case of a woman named Janine Todt, who lived rather close to me, yet I hadn’t heard of her disappearance for almost a month!
http://lostfacesofthemissing.blogspot.com/2008/09/missing-adults-get-too-much-exposure.html
OR here is a story about a little boy who disappeared with almost the same circumstances as Caylee…yet nobody heard of him. I had only learned of his name through a post written by ‘For The Missing - Pacific Northwest’ on Myspace
http://lostfacesofthemissing.blogspot.com/2008/09/caylee-anthony-giovanni-gonzalez.html
I could go on, with the names of hundreds of children and people, that nobody will ever know is missing, but I don’t think that will do much good. What might help, is changing the public’s perception about our missing…young and old ~ white, black, or hispanic ~ wealthy or poor…they ALL deserve to be found!
There are many groups who ARE working to make a difference, but we need help of media, public, and writers like you to make the news of EVERY missing child and person as ’sensational’ as the Caylee Anthony media blitz.
Ms. Very Stupid
January 20th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Welcome to VeryStupidThings.com mammabear. Your website and websites that report on the missing are very necessary. Unfortunately, Maria’s story has not turned out well. She was found dead. Your response has made me think. I’m going to look into what we can do to help the families of those missing find their loved ones.
mammabear
January 24th, 2009 at 7:27 pm
Thanks for the welcome.
There are quite a few blogs and forums out there, dedicated to shining light on all missing persons, no matter their age, sex, race, or social status.
Since you show an interest, I would like to point out one site in particular.
Peace4 the Missing
As far as I know, it’s about the only site of its kind.
This is not just another site that lists missing persons. Instead, it’s an interactive support site, that encourages families of the missing to support and share with each other. It’s great for those who are searching, so that they are not as alone in their fight.
Peace4 the Missing also has a ‘Monday4 the Missing’ project, where every Monday all bloggers highlight the same missing person on their blog, to help bring that missing persons name back in the sight of the public. Perhaps as a blogger, this is something you would be interested in.
Have a good one, and thank you for caring about our missing!
mammabear
Delilah
February 20th, 2009 at 2:38 pm
Ms. Very Stupid,
I am that passionate advocate, along with Mammabear, who gives time and space to missing persons on a daily basis. We at Peace4 the Missing are a strong network and would love to have you aboard one of our many projects to bring awareness to this ever growing epidemic. All it takes is a little online ink about a missing person to get their information in front of new eyes. Believe me, it does make a difference. Peace4 the Missing started as the result of a comment on a post I made and has grown quickly to a membership of family members, representatives of missing persons organizations, domestic violence organizations, private investigators as well as those of us who just plain care.
I covered Maria’s case in several blog posts on my personal blog, Mothers Are Vanishing. Being from SC myself, it hit close to home, although not the national media. One thing that needs to be addressed in this country is the way the media latches on to a “worthy” story and pounds it over and over. All missing persons deserve their “15 minutes” in the spotlight, but many get nothing, not even noticed in some cases.
I hope you will join us, there is lots to be done! If you are sincere, come by and check us out, if you like what you see, join the network and say you were referred by me personally.
Now I am going to take the time to look over your very interesting blog! (nothing stupid about it!)
Delilah
http://peace4missing.ning.com
Ms. Very Stupid
February 21st, 2009 at 5:41 pm
Welcome to Very Stupid Things Delilah. I’m going to join your network. I think it is very important that the cases of missing people are heard about AND talked about. I was really moved by Maria’s story. In fact, I was so moved that I’ve decided to start a site for missing people. The site is going to be located at VoiceOfTheMissing.com. I’m going to keep everyone that reads this blog updated on the progress of that site. Thanks for stopping by.