Women we are facing a problem here. Under the new health plan passed through to the senate, we will not be able to get coverage for contraception or abortions, but men will be able to get all of their penis needs & problems covered. How is that fair? The Catholic church lobbied hard to make sure that contraception and abortion coverage were not included in the bill, yet these are legal items that women should have access to. I understand the issues that Nancy Pelosi faced with this bill and I don’t blame her for leaving out those items. She was more concerned with getting the legislation passed. I, however, have a fundamental problem with some old guy (as in old committee members) telling women that their issues are less important than a man’s issues.

If abortion was illegal, then I would say that insurance should not cover it. However, abortion is a legal procedure. If it is legal, it should be covered. Why are penile implants covered? Why are erectile dysfunction drugs covered? For some reason, men always take a dim view of women’s reproductive needs as if they don’t or didn’t have mothers. What can we do? It seems absolutely stupid to me that we aren’t fighting for the things which are important to us.

A married working woman with 3 kids may not want to have additional kids. She decides to take birth control,  but instead of health insurance covering that, she may have to pay for the pills out of her own pocket. Her husband starts having penis problems. He can’t get it up regularly. He can get pills for his problems paid for by his insurance company (with a small copay). Why is this the case?

For some reason men don’t seem to trust us women when it comes to our reproductive choices. By restricting our choices, I guess they hope to restrict sex for us. Maybe they think that will force women to be more “moral”. If women collectively decided not to have sex with men before marriage, I think there are a lot of men out there who would lose their minds. You can say what you want, but the truth is that most people have sex at least once before they tie the knot. Be honest with yourself about that. No matter what we want our kids to do, we KNOW what we did and the majority of us were “putting out” well before marriage. As a side note, I have always thought the idea of waiting until marriage was stupid. Most people take a little bit of time to get good at things like sex. If you wait until you get married, what happens if you don’t enjoy it with the person you marry? Marriages have ended for far less. Having a healthy knowledge about what you enjoy sexually helps a relationship. I know that there are some people who chase the virgin ideal, but I can tell you that I would NEVER EVER want to marry someone who had never had sex. Fumbling and figuring it out as you go along is not my idea of a good time. Maybe I’m just too immoral or maybe I’m just too realistic. Maybe someone who has waited can tell me if they enjoy sex with their spouse. Then again, what would they have to compare to?

Restricting access to birth control for women yet allowing men to get their penis treatments is just plain unfair and discriminatory. I see a lawsuit brewing. However, let’s get the bill passed first. To do anything else would just be plain stupid.