WHAT I THINK ABOUT THE STUPID STUFF GOING ON IN THE WORLD
Two days ago I wrote a story about Chandra and Thomas Zarembinski. The Zarembinskis are adoptive parents who refuse to give a child back to his father after the mother deceived the father and gave the child to them. I am so very disgusted by this story that I decided to write about it again.
Since the original post, the father of the child has gone on Good Morning America. The Zarembinki’s response was to send a letter stating that they don’t understand why he chose to make this private situation public. Of all the nerve! These people have refused to give him his child FOR OVER A YEAR and they are wondering why he has FINALLY gone to the media about it?
I know that there is injustice in the world, but it is so hard for me to think about this father yearning for his little girl and having people like this refuse to let him SEE her and hold her! I just can’t believe it! I can’t believe that a willing father, a good man, has so little say in the life of his own daughter. I can’t believe that he filed for custody BEFORE these people and yet they WILL NOT GIVE HIS DAUGHTER to him! I can’t beleive that a woman could hold the father of her child in so little regard that she would deceive him and abscond with his child and give it to someone else and the courts wouldn’t IMMEDIATELY turn the child back over to him once it was determined that he was duped! What kind of world do we live in where this happens to a father? What kind of place is Utah to do this to a dad? Aren’t fathers people too?
This wasn’t some deadbeat guy who didn’t want his child. This was a man who loved his daughter from the moment he heard she was coming. He may not have been married to the mother, but once he found out that his child was coming he did the right things. Is this his reward? I understand that the Zarembinskis wanted a child, but this isn’t the way to do it. If this little girl isn’t returned, I hope she grows up, finds out what they did to her father and establishes contact with him. I hope she questions them about morality and just plain old right and wrong and asks them how they could morally be willing to keep a little baby from her father. I don’t hope that she hates the Zarembinskis, but I do hope, if they keep her, that their attempts don’t stop this little girl from getting to know her real father once she has the chance to do so on her own.
The Zarembinskis are the worse kind of people in my opinion. In my opinion, they are so selfish and so consumed with their own desire to have a child that they would do anything, including spit on the rights of the birth father, to keep this little girl that does not belong to them. There is no doubt that they will say that too much time has passed and they should keep the child, but it is their own fault. I just hope and pray that there is a judge who is smart enough to see that a father shouldn’t lose his child just because the mother deceived him. Where is that judge? It certainly wasn’t the judge in Utah. I am going to write more updates about this story. I don’t ever want people to forget about John Wyatt’s little girl, baby Emma.
Mr. & Mrs. Zarembinski you are doing the wrong thing! One day Emma will know what you have done.
Jim
April 16th, 2010 at 1:41 pm
I have not spoken with my daughter in three years due to parental alienation and the courts will do nothing for me either. However, at least I was able to see my little girl and have her get to know me.
I am shocked and saddened by this situation. It is beneath us as a country.
The family court system has become a business more concerned about making money than helping families or doing what is in the best interest of the child.
It’s these types of situations that make our arguments against other countries due to human rights violations so hollow.
Ashley
April 16th, 2010 at 2:55 pm
Utah and the LDS Church appear to have a systematic method for depriving willing fathers of their children. This type of outrageous adoption scenario has played out innumerable times in Utah. They routinely steal babies from families that want them. It is disgusting. And, irony of ironies, they do it in the name of morality!!! Don’t they see what they are doing is stealing babies!!!!!! What sort of justification have these people convinced themselves to believe?!?!!! They are baby stealers. There is a special place in hell for the people involved in depriving this young father of his child and for all the people who have done this for years in Utah to countless other fathers. Check out the stories of Mario Garcia Beltran and his girlfriend, last name Allan. Look up what happened to Cody O’Dea. His girlfriend told him she miscarried when she hadn’t! He is still fighting for his baby, too. Soooo many more stories like these!!!!!!! Shameful!
Ms. Very Stupid
April 16th, 2010 at 8:14 pm
I am so dismayed! I just read the story of Cody O’Dea. In 2009, the court ruled that since he had not established paternity in Utah the adoption can proceed. OMG! What is going on in Utah? This is horrible! This is absolutely horrible! What is going on in Utah. I hope this father takes his fight to the supreme court. What Utah is doing is sanctioning the theft of children!
If a woman has a child and does not want the child, the father should have the right to adopt the child.
Rebecca
April 17th, 2010 at 3:42 am
Federal law seems pretty clear to me that Virginia should have jurisdiction as the child was born in Virginia to parents from Virginia thus Virginia was the child’s home state. There is a good chance the biological father would get the baby back if this makes it to federal court. If Emma is returned to her biological father and traumatized by being taken away from the only parents she knew well these unethical “adoptive parents” will hvae only themselves to blame for the child’s suffering.
W.P.Wily
April 17th, 2010 at 12:57 pm
At this point the Zarembinskis are kidnappers, plain and simple. What I don’t understand is why John Wyatt’s attorneys are still screwing around with the Utah courts, shouldn’t this be a federal court case since the baby was kidnapped to another state?
Rebecca
April 17th, 2010 at 3:56 pm
I think they might have to work through the state court system before they can appeal to a higher (federal) court. Not 100% sure though. Sucks for the baby since she will bond with the so called “adoptive parents” the longer this drags out. They never should have stolen this baby in the first place and by continue to keep her they will make her suffer more. Horrible selfish people!
Ms. Very Stupid
April 17th, 2010 at 4:19 pm
I cannot believe that these people are keeping this child. They are going to let this go through the courts - which takes time. That means that this father is being kept from his child. I truly can’t believe it. You are right Rebecca, this issue has to wind its way through the state court system before it makes it to the next level.
Rebecca
April 17th, 2010 at 8:48 pm
The relevant federal law: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uniform_Child_Custody_Jurisdiction_And_Enforcement_Act
There really needs to be some process for moving these types of cases through the system quicker! I don’t see any way that Utah can win because the child was not born in Utah, the parents had no ties to Utah, and the first custody filing for the child was done in Virginia. So Virginia gets jursidiction. So why the heck are they allowed to take so long to move this through the courts? Critical time is being lost. The longer this goes on the greater the chance that the child will be old enough to remember this awful mess. She is still young enough to not remember if they give her back now I can’t believe they can be so cruel and heartless.
Renae
January 7th, 2011 at 1:05 pm
Let’s not forget the beginning of the story where the Virginia Judge did not take action on the case - he was waiting for the Utah Courts to make a decision on the Adoption. The father’s Attorney’s in Virginia were appalled that the Stafford JDR Judge REFUSED to take action, even prior to the child being removed from Virginia………
Kenya
August 19th, 2011 at 7:14 pm
This case appauls me!!! I can’t believe there is even a controversy! This is absolute kidnapping and I can’t believe any other human could see it any other way!!!
Denise Painter
August 19th, 2011 at 8:07 pm
New Mexico is just as bad. Divorce lawyers will tell non-custodial or joint-custodial parents to move to New Mexico if they can and file for custody there. New Mexico will almost always rule for the “resident” as opposed to the non-resident, (barring extenuating circumstances that could expose the child to harm) even if there is custodial paperwork filed in another state. In addition, New Mexico is probably THE hardest state to get someone extradited from. I know this because my ex-husband took my children there and filed for custody. There wasn’t anything I could do, and believe me, I tried. I filed paperwork and scheduled hearings in three different states, got rulings in two and got charges filed against him in all three for contempt of court. My attorney told me my only hope was that my ex would be caught in a traffic stop in one of those three states, at which point he would be jailed and I could get the kids back. It seems to me that criminal charges could be brought against Thomas and Chandra Zarembinski because they took a minor child across state lines without the permission of one of the parents. I don’t know, but it seems to me that the Zarembinski’s ought to be ashamed of themselves. I hope they burn in hell.
MAF
August 20th, 2011 at 10:24 am
There are no words to describe the way that this story makes me feel inside. The Utah Supreme Court, the AG, the filthy lawyer, the Zarembinski’s neighbor saying she was going to call the cops on John. The kidnapping parents with that big PHd the guy has. These people are dirt! Them fucking retards that sit on the bench and think they have a clue whats really going on. That AG with his faggot ass haircut and the lies rolling off his tongue like a career criminal. John I would do anything for you bro, I am trying to find out how I can help.
Alison
August 21st, 2011 at 2:27 pm
These parents who adopted this child are despicable. They need to give the child back. I hope everyone in Utah is upset with this couple. I saw the show on Dateline. If you are friends with these people, I feel pity on you. You are pathetic. Give the baby back.
Faith
August 22nd, 2011 at 1:24 am
God our Father was a single parent and Joseph and Mary were not married! Would these parents and the state of Utah have stole Jesus away from Joseph if he didn’t sign within 21 days? Biological fathers do have rights and due diligence to find them and notify them of their child’s birth should be the law!
You people are wrong!!
December 19th, 2011 at 12:16 am
Just saw this story and want that couple to know that they ARE kidnappers, the child was WRONGFULLY taken and if they are such an afluent couple with so much to offer they should hire a surrogate and have their own child. Money and job title DOES NOT make you a better parent, these people having no regard for the father is disgusting and shows that they are disgusting human beings……That baby deserves to know her father you arrogant self important asses!!! Also, they said the father needs to put in the same kind of work the mother does in the 9 months she is carrying the baby, doesnt him going to trial after trial after trial for years count for anything??? I am a parent and I am completely disgusted with all of these people and Utah and their Whak moral values and the LDS superiority complex that they are better equipt to raise children, I know plenty of people raised morman who are the most messed up people I know….get over yourselves
found Thomas Zarembinski’s email addy here it is- tizarembinski@glycosan.com